Freedom is possible.

“The body, in fact, and only the body, is capable of making visible what is invisible: the spiritual and divine. It has been created to transfer into the visible reality of the world the mystery hidden from eternity in God, and thus to be a sign of it”

- Pope John Paul II, Theology of the Body (19:4)

NEW chastity small groups at St. Mary’s

Whether you’ve been struggling with porn for years now, or you feel stuck in the shame of masturbation, you can be known here. You don’t have to fight for chastity on your own. Join other students who are willing to walk alongside you, to break free together.

WHAT: A confidential same-gender small group that provides spiritual and psychological formation to equip you for real transformation.

WHY: To integrate your sexuality in a virtuous way as you grow in freedom from porn, masturbation and other sexual sin. The goal is not just behavior modification or to “stop sinning” but to become men and women on a journey of ongoing growth in chastity.

WHO: For students ages 18-30, currently enrolled at A&M, Rellis, and Blinn. Students who have graduated in December or are taking a 1-2 semester gap period and are still involved in the SM community are also eligible to register.

WHEN: Starting fall 2025.

WHERE: location of small groups TBD.

You don’t have to be stuck. And you don’t have to do it alone. You can grow in freedom and chastity. Together.

Learn more about our small group partnerships

For men:

For women:

Small Group FAQ

  • Our men’s and women’s chastity small groups will meet in person to facilitate face to face authentic connection between real students like you.

  • Yes, you can expect a small fee to cover the cost of materials.

  • The Magdala and Augustine Way small groups are designed to cover 12-17 sessions depending on when each group starts and how often it meets. Once you join a group, you would go through a guided small group curriculum that spans one to two semesters.

  • During this initial pilot year, many of the groups will be facilitated by St. Mary’s staff members, with the gradual involvement of student leaders as we move into the future. As we get off the ground, the hope is to form student leaders to facilitate the groups longer term.

  • Yes, absolutely. St. Mary’s has several options for you, depending on what seems like the right fit.. If you find yourself struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, then the Magdala or Augustine groups could be a great place to work out that virtue of chastity with your peers. St. Mary’s also hosts The Pursuit, a confidential group for students who struggle with same-sex attraction or gender dysphoria. The Pursuit can be a great place to establish safety, community, and belonging as you grapple with layers of your sexuality. Learn more about The Pursuit here.

  • Although both the Augustine Way and Magdala ministries incorporate sound psychological principles rooted in a Catholic anthropology, they are not group counseling. Rather, these small groups are designed to foster peer-to-peer growth, support and accountability. They are not led by professional therapists, but rather facilitated by other men and women like you who desire chastity and are willing to walk together.

  • Both Magdala Ministries and the Augustine Way are resources stemming from a Christian worldview and are steeped in the tradition of the Catholic Church. You do not have to be Catholic to join a chastity small group at St. Mary’s, but these groups will draw from the fullness of the Catholic Church’s teachings on chastity. There is space to grapple with these teachings, and to explore what it looks like to live chastity in daily life. All are welcome — simply know that both Magdala and Augustine way are steeped in Catholic teaching.

  • The Magdala and Augustine Way small groups are designed for you to participate in them once, and then to continue your ongoing journey of chastity in other ways with other resources. However, some students who have been Magdala or Augustine participants may be invited to come back for the purpose of facilitating a small group.

  • The Magdala and Augustine Way groups are designed to be closed groups with a start and an ending (unlike other orgs or groups at St. Mary’s that operate on an open, rolling format). You can think of them as a small group intensive experience, designed to equip you through a deep dive into vulnerability, accountability, formation. Once your group finishes its curriculum, you will not continue to meet as an official chastity small group; however, we hope to accompany you into some “next step” options as you are on the off-ramp with your chastity group.

  • Yes, these are confidential, closed groups, designed to foster honesty and openness as you grow in trust with other group members. What you share here won’t be shared outside these groups.

You are not alone.

"I know the experience of pain and despair that can come from being stuck in sexual sin. Especially as a guy there is a temptation to put on the boxing gloves, and beat that part of your heart out of frustration. The Lord wants to redeem everything through his grace and mercy. Where sin abounds grace abounds all the more. It took me a long time to finally take off the gloves and let the Lord see me in these deep places of shame."

— Male Staff Member

“When I stumbled upon masturbation at a young age, I had no idea how many layers went into this experience. I didn’t know how to talk about it, because I was so confused, because my sensitive heart was so afraid of being unworthy of God. It would take me much longer to look at some of the deeper roots, including shame and unmet needs”

— Female Staff Member

FAQ

  • If struggling with chastity is the metric for being a “bad Catholic” then we’re all bad Catholics. God doesn’t use these kinds of labels with us. He prefers to call you and me by other names, like “beloved son”, “precious daughter”, “lovely”, and “very good”. We’re not good because we earned a chastity badge — we’re good because He wants us.

  • According to a 2022 survey from the National Library of Medicine, 36.5% of female respondents had masturbated in the past month, and Fight the New Drug cites statistics indicating that almost 3 out of 10 Pornhub users were female. So despite the myth that porn and masturbation are only “guy problems”, both the research and our own pastoral experience indicates that both women and men face these temptations.

  • You are definitely not alone. Research can vary and is ongoing as trends shift, but some surveys on pornography indicate that almost 60% of young adults are actively seeking out porn monthly or more often. In January 2024, Pornhub saw over 11.4 billion mobile visits from global users. And though survey results can vary, only 17.1% of both men and women surveyed by the National Library of Medicine said they had not experienced masturbation in the past year, putting them in the minority. If we look at trends in premarital sex, those numbers also point to an ever-growing prevalency of this experience.

  • In the Old Testament, the Hebrew word for “sin” is literally to “miss the mark”; in this sense, any choice to idolize something will create interference in our relationship with God. In fact, Pope Gregory the Great and other theologians actually see pride as the first of the seven deadly sins. So while chastity is an essential virtue for every human person, the Church wants to form us in all the virtues in an integrated way that will help us to live more like Jesus.


    It is also important to note that in situations of addiction, a person’s personal culpability for sin can be impacted. Good pastoral care should take into consideration this aspect that can accompany the experience of porn, masturbation and any potentially addictive experience.

  • This honest question acknowledges the real temptation to hopelessness that can set in for any person, especially for those who have been battling alone. Scripture reminds us that “whoever is in Christ is a new creation” (2 Cor 5:17). We have power in the Risen Jesus, and He is the one who transforms us and frees us. We do not “fix” ourselves, but rather we learn to be loved by Him. There is a growing body of knowledge today of what goes into the process of freedom, from the JPII’s Theology of the Body to the neuroscience of addiction to the impact of overcoming shame and isolation through community and accountability. There is hope!


Do you have more questions about chastity ministry at St. Mary’s? Please email Amanda Kapchinski: chastity@aggiecatholic.org